After being married for over 39 years to the same woman I have learned some amazing secrets that have produced a wonderful marriage. The Bible gives instruction in marriage for the husband and the wife. Since I am a husband I focus on my part. I figure my wife’s part is between her and God. However, I will have to give an account to God for my part.
God’s word is life and health to those who find it and do it. A husband is instructed to give his life for his wife, the same way that Jesus gave His life for His bride, the church. If you study the life of Jesus you will see that He never did anything for Himself. Everything He did was for others. When He went to the cross He took responsibility for the sins of His bride, forgave her, and gave her His position before God. He did not condemn her, hold her accountable, or judge her. He took her place and gave her His place. Even to this day Jesus washes His bride with words of acceptance, forgiveness, and honor. He clothes us with His righteousness and gives us His glory. He is coming for a bride that is glorious.
Jesus’ glory was to die on the cross and reconcile us to God. God’s glory is Jesus. God’s glory is also man. When a man gives his life for his wife and family he is operating in the glory of God and doing what God designed him to do.
If you truly desire a wonderful marriage you will do the same thing Jesus did. Everything you do will be for your wife and family. You will do nothing for yourself. You will make yourself last. You will make yourself a servant to your wife and children. No, I’m not saying to become their slave! But you will always prefer them above yourself and put theirs needs ahead of your own. I’m not saying you will never get to do anything for yourself, I’m just saying your wife and family will always be first. You will work hard for them and use your finances for them and not for yourself. Again I’m not saying you will never get to buy anything for yourself, I’m just saying you will always meet your wife and children’s needs first. I know what you are thinking, “If I do that I will get left out and won’t get anything I want.” It is true, life won’t be fair and you will miss out on a lot of things you may want or like doing. You will pay a price to die to yourself. However the reward you will get is a very happy wife and very secure children. The level of your happiness will soar. You see; if you put yourself first and everything you do is to make yourself happy you will be miserable. Your wife will be miserable and your children will be insecure which is going to cause you great trouble. You will eventually lose your life and your family. Jesus said, “If you will lose your life you will find life. If you will make yourself last He will make you first.” I have been living this way for the past 30 years. Of course I didn’t do it perfectly and as I get older the better I get at doing it. My wife is truly a glorious wife. She is beautiful, confident, successful, and a great leader. I know that I had a big part in who she is. The Bible also says that a man’s glory is His wife. If your wife is unhappy, discontent, a nag, etc. it is a reflection of you. All women need to know that their husband loves them and shows it by putting them first. This gives them great value and security. She will blossom like a beautiful flower if she knows her value that only a husband can give her by putting her first. Your goal should be to do everything in your power to make sure your wife and children are successful and blessed. Their success is a direct reflection of you. If you are so busy trying to make yourself successful you take a huge risk of losing your family. The truth is your family is your success. Nothing else really matters. Nothing else can make you happy. This is God’s design for a happy marriage. If a man puts himself first it disrupts happiness and produces misery. If you will follow God’s design your marriage will flow in true happiness and success.
God rewarded Jesus for His great sacrifice of giving His life for His bride. He received power and authority to rule. He also received a name of great honor. When Jesus received His reward He immediately gave His power and His name to His bride. As a good husband when you receive your rewards from God you too will immediately bless your wife and family, for your entire life is all about blessing your family. When you give your life for your wife and family you receive power to rule over Satan and his attacks against your family. You can keep your family safe. There have been many times the Lord has prompted me to pray in the Spirit for my family and to this day they are all safe and healthy and prosperous. I have authority over Satan to keep my family safe. You see; if you put yourself first you are going to be so concerned about yourself you cannot hear God’s prompting to pray. Therefore Satan will wreak havoc in your life and in the life of your family. Also if you put yourself first your relationship with your family is going to be broken and your influence in their life is going to be very limited. If you will give your life for your wife and family you also will receive a name of honor. When your wife and children think of you they will smile and thank God they have a husband and father like you. They will always honor you and respect you. They will come to you for advice or to gain wisdom. It is a place of honor that gives you great satisfaction and joy. You truly do find life when you are willing to lose it for your wife and family. I am truly the most blessed person in the whole world. I hope you will follow the same biblical path that I have taken so that you too can know the great joy and happiness that I know as a man, a husband, a father, a grandfather and soon to be great grandfather.
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Reverend David E.Watson
Founder and President of the University of Health and Healing. He has a heart for seeing people get healed, and freed from the shackles that Jesus broke off for us.
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